for recovery from sex, romance, and fantasy addiction
We meet regularly to share our experience, strength, and hope in support of recovery from compulsive sex, romance and fantasy
We hold meetings regularly in multiple time slots every week. Click here for the meeting times for your time zone. Click on the Meeting Room tab to participate. The meetings are much like face-to-face recovery meetings, but we type what we say and read what others share.
Members of this group generally use either a handle, pseudonym, or initialled last name. To change your e-Group name, click the Settings link in the right column and edit your name. Be sure to click Save when you have finished.
We are looking for people interested in being meeting facilitator for just the four or five weeks in a row within a single month. It would be entirely your choice what month, what time, and what day of the week. You can send me the following information, and we will set you up and make the announcement.
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Your Grateful e-Group Secretary, Sarah
I use First Thing First around the holidays. The goal being to not stress out over them. What the application of First Things First solves for me is recognition that I don't have to do everything right now, all of it, without exception. This intense sense of urgency for multiple things can create much anxiety, and I want to enjoy the holidays. So I am grateful for having learned the trick.
I can remember to pick what is most important and do that first. That works during holidays and other times too. And I can communicate clearly when other people have expectations that will be delayed. Their disappointment (if they indeed have any) is less stressful than letting them go on believing that I'm going to do something that is not a priority based on how God has indicated priority to me.
Today, that is taking care of the second largest risk in my life, which is addiction, by continuing to grow spiritually and listen and follow the will of God. And that takes care of my…Continue
Hi . I am June slrfa
Not sure where to start, i ve been rotting in resentments from time to time. I takes everything from me, sanity, peace, joy and gratitude. that's not spiritual my sponsor says and of course she is right .
I am good at blaming other people about my rage anger and self pity , today ,i don't even need people to blame, i can blame God. i mean he s got me in this family of origin! I didn't ask to be born in this dysfunction!!I didn't ask to feel outsider or white crow in the family ,social situations. i didn't asked to be abused! and now i pass some of dysfunction onto my kids, and also self blame patterns too.....
I mean all my life i felt weird. and ,, my addictive patterns and also being a Victim really helped me to stay there,, at the bottom. I don't even want to share ,why would i? what is the bloody point... feell like a rotten fruit anyway! but i said i will do it so i am. hate these promises and commitment…Continue
Posted by June14 on July 2, 2017 at 10:46am
Hi Recovery Friends!
Someone that knew my past twelve stepped me. It wasn't my past then. It was my present, and it was more than a little dangerous.
I was involved in a community where some people have dies of this, and it could have been me. I couldn't see it clearly at the time - the risk part. We all knew we were a little crazy but saw that as a good thing. I reveled in it.
When i started to hear, at meetings of this group in particular, that there was a powerlessness aspect and that my crazy friends and I weren't really choosing the life but rather choosing how to rationalize it, I started to wake up.
Recovery didn't happen for me by just strolling onto e-slaa.org or one of the other outreach pages. Someone told me about this place. When I showed up for a meeting and mentioned what I was doing, people listened without judgment. They told me to come back. That's how it works.
I asked someone to sponsor me. I followed the lead, and I got…Continue
Posted by NicoleInRecovery on July 2, 2017 at 8:40am
Hi everyone, June slrfa
I came to this group approximately 1year and 10 mnths. i had some ideas for what is recovery and it was so wrong! I wanted to improve my relationship with different gender ,so I have a man, and feel okay with myself, because of that :) and also that he took care of my children...and me.. i was not able to look after myself spiritually physically emotionally: the worse of all 3 was spiritual death.
Relationship with man ,was the most important goal in my life! I am not joking, it is painfully true. today.
In my few dysfunctional relationships, after separation with my kids biological father ,man was always the priority! (That how I was tough in my dysfunctional family, social circle i was tough a co-dependency really early on). working progress today :)
I have never though, that I d change so much, in my recovery process, that- The most Important relationships will become ,relationship: with GOD,…Continue
Posted by June14 on April 9, 2017 at 10:32am
Posted by Missy on March 29, 2017 at 11:00am
Currently at this time, I have relapsed only three times but did not feel so much of a drastic after-effect like I normally would on a consistent porn binge. The reasons for this is easily explainable. I finally have established myself a routine, in which I would determine how I would spend my time.
I. I cut off the Internet entirely at home, in which I can no longer get online due to loss of trust in myself, lack of self-respect for myself, and my inability to curtail the sexual thoughts.
II. I gave up gaming on my computer, and finally decided I should try new hobbies that involve socialization as part of my recovery. I took up Airsoft, and Magic the Gathering as two hobbies to undertake. I also have invested into X-Wing Miniatures to meet with a man, who served in the U.S. Army. I have learned how to socialize with others, even though my gift of gab isn't there; it is building up slowly.
III. I exercise…Continue
Posted by addictio_expelliarmus on January 21, 2017 at 11:38am
Dear Recovery Friends,
It has been too long since I write a Gratitude Blog entry.
There is so much to be grateful for. Ten years ago, I was in middle school and my sex and love addiction was in full force. My head was in a cloud of romantic fantasies nearly every waking hour. I was entrenched in the after hours culture and although I was doing less ecstasy and other drugs than others in that crowd, I was having much more anonymous and dangerous sex than most.
The amazing thing is that I got into recovery through this group so early on in my life that I have very few permanent consequences from that crazy and medically and criminally dangerous life.
I escaped (through an alleyway) from two busts, and I had multiple medical checkups because I didn't believe that I could be HIV negative.
Recovery is a blast. I'm feeling very grateful today, and I've seen things and experienced things I never could have seen if I hadn't attended meetings here and…Continue
Posted by meg on January 15, 2017 at 10:21am
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